From the article: Cutting Cords to Toxic Relationships
Share Post: Were you involved in a relationship that was more hurtful than loving? Were you able to break free and begin forming healthier relationships? What life lessons did you learn? Are you okay now? Or are you still struggling? Share Your Experiences
Toxic Psycho Sister
- My sister was enabled her whole life starting with our grandma, and aunt. Because my dad was a sociopath who abused mom, me and my sister, our family bent over backward to pay attention to my drama queen sister. She has psychiatric problems from my dad's abuse, but she learned very early that she got attention from playing his "victim" and the more screwed up she was, the more everyone danced around to please her. Because I adjusted better after the damage my dad left than she did, I was invisible. I tried to make the family proud by using my talents, but instead of encouraging my healthy development, they criticized me. They didn't think I was devoted enough to my sister. They didn't care that she beat me up regularly and lied constantly. She was/is jealous of me and poisoned my relationships with them. They're dead and gone and she still finds people to turn against me. She kept me and my family away from mom. She lies to her husband and kids about me. I can't take it. I feel cheated.
- —Guest Cheated Sister
Toxic childhood redeemed by animals
- I was raised as the scapegoat by a family of sociopaths. I was the black sheep and constantly belittled and accused of wrong. After being spanked and locked in closets/rooms etc. I found our dog. He loved me. That was the beginning, after that I realized that all animals seemed to watch and respond to me kindly. Eventually, I found that some humans were somewhat similar to animals. Now, I live with my real family, animals and some humans that understand. We avoid angry people. Find a humane society, they need us and they will not betray.
- —Guest wigglyfriend
Hard to break away
- My toxic relationship is my sister-in-law, I have gotten free but now she has gotten to my sons and turned them against me. She is NOT a good person as she wants people to think. She is a very unhappy person and yes people like this we need to pray that they change their self or get what they deserve......
- —Guest xxxooo
Waking up is hard to do
- Reading these from the others who have had such toxic souls of friends and family is like salve to my heart and soul. Misery does indeed love company it seems but more than that, being so alone with such emotional pain from all the endless lifelong abuse can ultimately be quite hideous. And even though you know in your heart it was not your fault and you realize it was all their sick fault, it still hovers around you like a dark fog. Things hit the fan a couple of years ago for me when I was hit with a major financial tsunami that left me wiped out. I was forced to face the cold hard fact that every single person in my family and friend lists were toxic and losers. No one wanted to help me even though it was the first time I had ever asked for any help or any kind. I found myself utterly alone, driving up and down the highway with no place to sleep and no money. Divine intervention saved my life and for many months I've been hitting bottom and realizing how sick everyone in my life is.
- —Guest Goldie
- I can't get away from them. They will hunt me down, to do dirty to me. My older sister, has highly influenced others to do bad things against me. I am a prisoner in an apt. They all know every move I make. The police, judges, court system & victims rights let them get away with all their wrong doing. I go to court, everything is dismissed, and my sister will attach exhibit A-I to prove I am the sick one in the family. I pray for myself and them. That they will have peace some day in there hearts. My older sister still enables my brother who is 47 and does drugs. I cut my ties from them, I didn't want to take care of him any more. I am heart broken over this since my father passed away in 2007. According to the 47 yr olds he had said the family hates and wants me dead even before my father passed. I have nowhere to hide, I have no money to eat, or get personal items.
- —Guest Hex
- One of the characteristics of toxic relationships is the toxic person's ability to hide what they really are. I learned this the hard way. I met a man who treated me like a queen. He seemingly anticipated my every wish. Here's what important about that. NO ONE can know us that well from the very beginning. He was, and forever will be, a sociopath. They are amazingly skilled at at studying others. What they see, they use. USE is exactly what he did. He didn't change what he really was. He simply dropped the mask and let me see it. Once he knew he had me, he didn't have to pretend anymore. He was hell. He made sure those around us saw him as a a prince. When I started sharing some of the things he had done, my own family didn't believe me. He took thousands of dollars, cheated more out of others, had addictions to drugs and sex as well. Worse, he shredded me, my integrity, all I believe in. His anger over my ending it was because he wasn't done using me yet. Ugly person!
Confused with 2 loves
- I'm married for 11 years to a wonderful husband who loves me truly. But somehow I lost the love and passion. We are childless. Then I met my ex who's still deeply in love with me and with whom I shared real passion with. The feelings are getting deeper and I'm falling for him. But he's married too and I find myself longing for his time and attention more and more which he couldn't give. He talks of a future for the two of us but as it is, I'm not satisfied with the time he spends with me and I get hurt. Will I hold on to my safe marriage or risk my name for the hope of a passionate love in the future?
- —Guest Confused
- As per my previous sharing a few days ago. How is this for Toxic. I previously told you about my toxic siblings and how they gang together. My daughter gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on what would have been my mother's 70th birthday. Not one of my siblings acknowledged it. Even when directly mentioned to them, they cut us off and changed the subject abruptly. It is hurtful and they are bullies. No less and no more.
- —Guest Fiona
- I have been effectively cut off by my 4 other siblings due to cutting ties with a 5th one who treated me and my dying mother disrespectfully. My mother had the opportunity to die in peace taken from her when she lay helpless in bed dying hearing her abuse towards me and my daughter who did most of the nursing. My other siblings stayed out of it and watched it happen. Despite me having given one of them a kidney in the previous months. I was physically and mentally drained during this time and received no support. My 50th birthday is coming up and when invited they said they would not come if I did not invite the bully. As I did not do so they turned viciously on me and my lovely daughter and her kids and cut me off. One toxic sister is now turning her 13year old child against me with lies. How do you deal with a liar who gives the impression she is perfect. I have a wonderful daughter and 2 grandchildren and a loving partner. I am blessed and I feel free from the toxicity.
- —Guest Fiona
- Get out everyone. we just need to get out of these relationships. the worst thing is when you do to other after suffering under it yourself. or how it screws with your perception of the world. Like not know the appropriate way to reach in some situations. emancipation is the key "money" then a good support group like church. I'm not even one of those big Bible belt types. But I found church does help. Okay, good luck everyone.
- —Guest hey
Toxic Relationships Are Dangerous
- I really hope and pray that this message reaches someone that really needs it. Toxic relationships are dangerous, they create false reality, fear, abuse, cruelty and an enormous amount of abandonment. Sometimes we hold on to these relationships because we want to do the right thing, however it won't change, as a matter of fact it only gets worse. Don't allow people to take control over your life via toxic relationships, everyone has a right to liberation. As I speak iIm trying to find ways to end a very toxic relationship without bringing more harm to the situation, there is a child involved and I do wanna do right by my child, however doing right by my child is causing and creating more of a platform for this toxic to continue to grow like a cancer. Any suggestions?
Toxic Narcissistic Mother
- Wow! Amazing! This site give me some hope. I'm 27 years old and deaf woman who is currently dealing with her toxic alcoholic, narcissistic drama queen mother. She has been mentally and emotionally abusive toward to me. She has done a horrible thing to me by such calling DHHS and took my son away at 3 wks at age, and I was in a crazy abusive relationship with my 3 children (two different fathers); which I lost them in my custody due to their manipulative behavior. The major reason I lost my children is because of my mother's actions. She would make everyone to believe her lie (which i later discovered her extreme lying habit) instead of believing me. She would try to make me look like I am an idiot person and being co-depending on her which it her sick pleasure. So, I'm trying so hard to succeed in my life by going to college and recovering from these abuses.
- —Guest Shauna
- I cut off contact with a toxic ex a couple of months ago. We had reconnected after several years and were trying to be friends. In the meantime, I had met and married a very good man. After one particular email, it suddenly dawned on me that my ex was being manipulative and that maintaining a healthy, honest friendship would be impossible. When I realized how emotionally abusive he was, I was extremely angry. It was enough to convince me to finally stand up for myself. I called him on all of his B.S. (albeit in a calm and dignified manner), said goodbye, and blocked his emails so I wouldn't have to read his angry response. Once the worst of my own anger subsided, I spent a few days terrified that somehow he would harm me. I hadn't realized until then that I harbored any fear of him. I still think of him too often, but I love myself too much to go back to him and have learned to truly love the wonderful man in my life who treats me with respect. My heart is finally healing.
- —Guest Emily
BEWARE of Toxic persons ganging
- Seriously sick persons ganged with deliberate manipulation with a sociopath in an attempt to kill/seriously injure me to gain financially. The plan by these older women nearly worked; evil wreaked havoc and I feel compelled to warn others of the evil of con men/women who will seek destruction of others of whom they are jealous . Alone, these women who live in other states (CA, OH, & NV) would not have been as effective alone; it was collective active use of their evil that brought such impact. Never underestimate an energy vampire, sociopath/con artist, and protect ones self with armor of God and every legal means possible. Breaking the cord ties is essential; sure these miserable beings would want me dead...and breaking these ties..letting go, protection and knowing that God is dealing with them...and seeing how this has been exposed and neutralized by His Spirit w prayer and His Divine Mercy is awesome.
- —Guest wizernow
- About Toxic Niece: More information is needed. Maybe she is the only honest one in the family. Maybe the entire family is toxic and she is speaking out and she is scapegoated for doing so. Why is she blaming? What happened to her? Why is she playing victim? Was she a victim? Was she victimized? Why would you bury her picture? Did she say something bad about you? Sometimes the family will gang up on one person who was actually hurt. These people are silent partners to the abuser and they despise the victim for speaking out because the victim is rocking the boat. The Niece could be a bully or she could be someone who spoke the truth and is now being punished for it.
- —Guest Maybeitsyou
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