In relationships, we have the opportunities to develop a deeper
sense of ourselves through the mirror of our partner. If you
have a generous, loving partnership, then you are possibly
learning lessons related to creating a generous and loving
relationship with your inner self as well. If you are in an
abusive relationship, are you seeing the mirror of your
relationship with your self?
We have the tendency to repeat certain patterns in our relationships. It
seems we take the best and the worst within ourselves and project it into
the container that is our relationship. We use the relationship as a
However, when we go through changes or life transitions, it may
put additional stress on the partnership by having little time
for each other, being agitated and upset, etc. One person in the
relationship isn't experiencing change, they both are. If one
person in the mirror changes, then the other will reflect that
change. These may be positive changes or can be a stirring up of
old issues that haven't yet been healed or released.
In a partnership, we partner through change as well as through
stability. Life is constantly changing around us and our ability
to remain flexible and grow together make for a stronger
Choosing to look in the mirror of our partner, you see aspects of
yourself that may be ready for transformation or release. Is
there something that irritates you about your spouse? Is there a
common argument that you have? Do you share similar views on
many things, but have a particular stuck point on one subject?
Instead of leaping first to blame or lash out at your partner,
look into the mirror and see what is there for you to see. Is
there something attempting to get your attention? Are you faced
with this same theme over and over again? Is there a deeper
issue regarding change that you're avoiding or overlooking?
Change itself can be a scary experience for some. In
partnerships, change can feel threatening to the solid foundation
or nest that you have built together. When one partner is
undergoing deep internal changes, the other may feel left out,
neglected, no longer connected and unappreciated. If that
partner refuses to reflect upon the mirror that he/she is
presented with, and chooses not to undergo changes as well, the
mirror becomes out of balance. There is no longer a reflection
of each other. One person has changed more than the other is
willing to change. This is when struggle appears in the
In a spiritual relationship, partners consciously work through
these changes, each partner facing their inner feelings, looking
in the mirror to see that which is ready for transformation. A
spiritual relationship as such requires tremendous courage for
both partners, trusting that the other will continue to transform
and flow with the changes along with you.
Any relationship requires courage and trust. Communication is a
necessary aspect of partnership and courage is most valuable.
Stepping up to the plate and facing yourself in the mirror
everyday can be exciting, thrilling and challenging. Allowing it
to be something you face together every day is powerful and is
the cornerstone of a spiritual partnership.