From the article: About Mirroring
Share Posts - Mirrors are the people in our lives who reflect images of our own characteristics as a means of teaching us about ourselves. Do you have people in your life who serves as a teaching mirrors? Who are they? What have you learned from your mirror? Please explain. Share About Your Mirrors
Mirror, mirror...are you sure that's me?
- I get this now! I often struggled with this because it seemed many of the mirrors around me reflected a whole lotta negative. I thought they were "broke." That couldn't be me? But I found I was distancing myself from everyone; no more stress but that didn't feel right either. Even my dog wanted me to get out more! I cut all ties with a friend of many years - all she did was worry and go on about all her problems. She drank a lot too. Then I noticed how much my mom complained to me about her life , never to my siblings. Then it was a "bitchy" co-worker; a controlling or leaching boyfriend. I wanted to make it all "go away" and "be happy" so I gave unwanted advice; reactions were not good. I wondered why and why me? Now I see it's about learning how to cope with others (I allowed too much in, took things too personal.) and setting healthy boundaries - more good than negative relationships will follow with practice and commitment to myself. I like what I see in those mirrors now.
- —RS2012
worth reading
- here is an article that is worth reading for growth of our own lives and relationships
- —Guest michael
Thanks....
- Wonderfully written... It's not often that I learn about myself and my journey in life so much... Thank you very much... I always read your newsletters coming to my mailbox but I think this is the first time I am writing as a member. I would like to say hello to everyone .... I must read what you wrote again and again. So true, but very hard to realize.... I felt I had to write to you after the effect of what you wrote on me. Thank you very much...
- —eftya
Too True
- I have this kind of relationship with my mother. We push each others buttons and, deep down, I know I'm supposed to take a step back rather than get caught up in the tired old pattern of overreaction. Thanks for reminding me with this article that there is an important lesson behind it all.
- —Guest Dawn
Lessons and mirrors
- With my second partner, is more controlling than my first and annoying I'm still wondering why.
- —Guest rachel
So glad I read this
- 8 years later and this was an excellent read. Extremely eye opening. Thank you.
- —Guest Drew
