From the article: Ten Ugliest Character Flaws
Share Post: Everyone struggles with character flaws. No one is perfect, we can all make improvements through innerwork. Sometimes acceptance of our imperfections is all that is needed. Have you had success in making changes in your life and as a result became a better person for it? Can you offer any character building tips to help others break free of self defeating behaviors. Share a Tip
Keep Trying
- Also. Keep trying. You might mess up again, but keep trying. Keep trying. You are worth it. The people you love are worth it. Keep trying to overcome your shortcomings.
- —Guest Stacie
Bulls eye
- I can't believe that all this time, the mentioned personality flaws are in fact recognized flaws. For a very long time, I thought that those traits are good ones that will help me survive in this demanding world. However, I have come to find that with such personality traits, people come to respect you and not befriend you because they are either intimidated or offended. I think that the only method of getting over this problem is to recognize it, rationalize the cons, and then stop rationalizing. Today I told my friend to call me something mean, followed by something negative about me, and then to tell me about a past instance where I was a complete idiot. I feel so much better now about failing and not doing well than the two hours before the negative talk session with my friend.
- —Guest Random guest
t.I.m.E.
- Beneath the surface awaits the real you. Cry, sing, shout, pray. Trust the process. Remember you are a work. I progress so far, some rain a la carte, sunshine. Change is within you as you evolve, so the world turns, Life gets better:)
- —Guest True beAUTY
12 steps
- Work step 7 which states, "We humbly asked god to remove our shortcomings."
- —Guest Wendy
Character and Wisdom
- Times change, and so do standards and values. I am not condoning anyone's behavior. I am in charge of my own life and live by my rules. I used to live by everyone else's rules, but that is a fool's game that cannot be won. What is normal for one person, is not normal for another, what is moral for one is amoral for another culture. At one time, the automobile was thought to be immorale. Times change and we have to live by our own higher essence. If our Savior is truly loving, and we are told to love everyone equally, doesn't that mean that we should love all of our parts equally both the light and the dark????
- —Guest Guest Rob
Inner Raihan
- Well, Salam to all I think that, naturally, all the human beings are so nice but we change our lives our actions our thinking due to our company friends and our environment sometimes. But ,if we ask our problems to ourselves in front of mirror we can get the best suitable answer because our inner man is our best friend. He will never betray you from the right path.
- —Guest Raihan
Power of praise
- i agree with Tamara that learning from our mistakes is great theory yet very painful in practice. The power of praise should not be taken for granted in changing an attitude to character. Because as imperfect beings, we can't do it on our own but with the help of a perfect being, God.
- —Guest sookie belle
is it even a flaw?
- If you know deep down that your character flaw isn't really that big of one or isn't one at all, don't let others convince you!
- —Guest bella
Giving it up
- We all have one huge problem in our lives. SIN! This is what shows up when we do the wrong things over and over again (character). I know because I have been trapped in my flaws over and over again. No matter how hard I tried they alway came back in time and I was back at square one. The only way I have started to remove these flaws is first give them all over to God to handle. Second start working on good characteristics along with lots of prayer and studing of the Bible. Having accountability partners is another way to keep you honest. You must have that right person who will love you enough to tell you the truth even when it hurts, for your good. Not to harm of to make fun, but to lift you up. Romans 5:3-4 God Bless you all!
- —Guest PHIL
Meditation and Prayer
- We are all imperfect beings. All of us have a dark side. Regular Prayer and meditation has helped me control my anger and let go. Though at times when our loved ones pull us down I have to make efforts to control my pain and let go...
- —Guest Sonal
constant vigilance!
- THE most difficult challenge in my day to day life is the thought processes in my head. The person I believed "Dear" for over 25 years is publishing continual lies about me and how I lived. I bounce back and forth between "releasing him to God" and thinking "there MUST be something I can do/pray to STOP his cruel behavior." Deep down I KNOW I become like him if I dwell on the tactics he uses to destroy me. The answer is HARD but knowable: TAKE responsibility FOR ME. My loved ones tell me over and over to STOP letting his behaviors "get to me." I begin this morning by NOW going walking with uplifting music playing/encouraging my spirit.
- —eyeswideopen2
Ten Ugliest
- Some things simply should not be said. If what I say is going to offend or hurt I don't say it. Conforming to an uplifting attitude helps humanity in general. However since one of my flaws is letting go of resentment and the angry mouth that goes with it, I have to do daily spiritual maintenance.
- —Guest tamara
So true
- Our character is composed by all of our sides, good and bad ones. The problem of accepting and self-forgiveness on all of our sides, is just as freezing up the ocean and crack the chunks we don't like and hide them into the dark. They are still ours but now in the dark side. It just looks like it doesn't belong to us anymore. As someone mentioned here, just acknowledging that it still is me, can start the healing process. Our spirit seems to be like an evolving organism trying to join the rest, but we stop it because we think our dark side will kill the spirit (or something... hehe). If our society stopped the crazy educational way of living, it would been easier to become less outcome dependent. But hey! now we have a lot to integrate, and it is really fun when it happens :D Peace and love to all
- —Guest Benjamin
Character flaw? Says who?
- We live in a world that judges us on what we say and do. Heaven forbid we should not be "normal." Thank you for sharing. I can say I am responsible for myself, my actions ------but it is the reaction of those around that makes the I forgive me process so darn hard. If we lived in a world that accepted everyone for who they are, just living would not be so overwhelming. I have always questioned why I have to conform to others, even as a child. Legally, not withstanding. I consider my maybe-character flaw to be a mouth that does not think. I am a firm believer in the prayer "Creator, keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth." Saying it helps me. It is not for everyone nor should it be. For those times when the situation arises, the prayer comes forth, usually after the fact, but it comes forth!
- —Guest Kathrina
Dark Side
- We all have a dark side. I embrace mine and feel secure. I can protect myself, not be a doormat. The dark side is there for a reason, not to be ignored, because then it will have the element of surprise on you. Good luck with accepting your dark side!
- —jazzymom229
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