From the article: Ten Ugliest Character Flaws
Share Post: Everyone struggles with character flaws. No one is perfect, we can all make improvements through innerwork. Sometimes acceptance of our imperfections is all that is needed. Have you had success in making changes in your life and as a result became a better person for it? Can you offer any character building tips to help others break free of self defeating behaviors. Share a Tip
Meditation and Prayer
- We are all imperfect beings. All of us have a dark side. Regular Prayer and meditation has helped me control my anger and let go. Though at times when our loved ones pull us down I have to make efforts to control my pain and let go...
- —Guest Sonal
constant vigilance!
- THE most difficult challenge in my day to day life is the thought processes in my head. The person I believed "Dear" for over 25 years is publishing continual lies about me and how I lived. I bounce back and forth between "releasing him to God" and thinking "there MUST be something I can do/pray to STOP his cruel behavior." Deep down I KNOW I become like him if I dwell on the tactics he uses to destroy me. The answer is HARD but knowable: TAKE responsibility FOR ME. My loved ones tell me over and over to STOP letting his behaviors "get to me." I begin this morning by NOW going walking with uplifting music playing/encouraging my spirit.
- —eyeswideopen2
Ten Ugliest
- Some things simply should not be said. If what I say is going to offend or hurt I don't say it. Conforming to an uplifting attitude helps humanity in general. However since one of my flaws is letting go of resentment and the angry mouth that goes with it, I have to do daily spiritual maintenance.
- —Guest tamara
So true
- Our character is composed by all of our sides, good and bad ones. The problem of accepting and self-forgiveness on all of our sides, is just as freezing up the ocean and crack the chunks we don't like and hide them into the dark. They are still ours but now in the dark side. It just looks like it doesn't belong to us anymore. As someone mentioned here, just acknowledging that it still is me, can start the healing process. Our spirit seems to be like an evolving organism trying to join the rest, but we stop it because we think our dark side will kill the spirit (or something... hehe). If our society stopped the crazy educational way of living, it would been easier to become less outcome dependent. But hey! now we have a lot to integrate, and it is really fun when it happens :D Peace and love to all
- —Guest Benjamin
Character flaw? Says who?
- We live in a world that judges us on what we say and do. Heaven forbid we should not be "normal." Thank you for sharing. I can say I am responsible for myself, my actions ------but it is the reaction of those around that makes the I forgive me process so darn hard. If we lived in a world that accepted everyone for who they are, just living would not be so overwhelming. I have always questioned why I have to conform to others, even as a child. Legally, not withstanding. I consider my maybe-character flaw to be a mouth that does not think. I am a firm believer in the prayer "Creator, keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth." Saying it helps me. It is not for everyone nor should it be. For those times when the situation arises, the prayer comes forth, usually after the fact, but it comes forth!
- —Guest Kathrina
Dark Side
- We all have a dark side. I embrace mine and feel secure. I can protect myself, not be a doormat. The dark side is there for a reason, not to be ignored, because then it will have the element of surprise on you. Good luck with accepting your dark side!
- —jazzymom229
Inner Sight and Knowing After Accepting
- I used to be knight with sword in hand (mouth and deeds) fighting against unrighteousness. Jumping wherever I felt needed. Just a few days ago I felt I do not need to since everyone is responsible for his/her actions and choices. Reactions especially. But it is an every day fight in me now and I meditate on changing ME.
- —Guest sue ellen
So true....
- I struggle with these things everyday and sometimes I don't like myself. But I need to realize I am human and I need to be more self-accepting. Thanks for sharing your story.
- —Guest Isis
Innerwork
- The wrong stroke could ruin the master piece. Yes, we are a work in progress but some things need to be unacceptable to us about us such as driving while intoxicated or having sex with married men. Learning from our mistakes is great in theory yet can be painful in practice. Altogether though, I do agree with the idea to accept ourselves deeply and completely since we are all works of God and hence deserving of love.
- —Guest tamara wagner
