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Readers Respond: Ways to Love and Comfort Your Inner Child

Responses: 16


Do you have a special way you nurture your inner child? How do you show or tell your inner child he or she is loved and cared for. Teach others how to embrace their inner child by sharing your own experiences. Share Your Loving Ways

My Inner Child Teaches Me

One of the ways I practice loving my inner children is inventorying my childhood which gives her an opportunity to feel & express her grief and loss and fears. Doing mirror work invited her to share herself with me. It is quite powerful to see her pain, to witness her energy bursting forth from me. I recently bought a rocking chair at her suggestion. I sit in it and rock and look up at the sky since she had me put it on my porch outside. She comes up a lot when I play especially if she might look foolish/stupid as she did as a child. I listen to her, witness her fear and pain and we go back to playing together with a healthier energy. I am doing breathing exercises by Deborah Blair on YouTube and EFT with Brad Yates which helps facilitate a connection with all my inner children. They help give me the grace and strength I need to be a loving witness to them all. Watching movies can bring up emotion and that is another way I connect with them and allow them to express.

Comforting my inner child.

My child loves soft music that gives a loving message. I listen, I sing to her as I rock her. She likes to have me hold my teddy bear "Hershey" as I do this. Sometimes I dance slowly with her through Hershey. It's like heaven to me.


I hug myself gently and feel my heart beating. I also give myself oil massages, especially my belly, before bed.
—Guest Owl

finding inner child

I don't grasp the inner child thing... if I knew what I was looking for I would know maybe how to calm him and put him in a secure place
—Guest Warren

Knitting Baby Clothes

I wasn't able to bond with my mother when I was born so missed out on a very important milestone in my life and possibly the reason why I never had any babies. I have now acquired one of those very real real life like baby dolls to represent the very tiny part of me that was wounded. I hold her close, kiss her, stroke her face and take her to all my therapy sessions to try and help heal some of that early wounding. I also love to knit baby clothes for her and she has a moses blanket. I don't recall having a baby doll when I was a child and I had to grow up very quickly so part of this ritual is finishing off working through my playing phase - something I never got to do as a child. She is helping me to heal my inner baby and grow more as a person.
—Guest Jean

Raggedy Ann

When I was very little, my favorite doll was my Raggedy Ann. Several years ago, I found the same Raggedy Ann that I had (from the early 70's) on Ebay and bought her. I keep her next to my bed, and often hold her while I'm falling asleep. She embodies so many things for me...innocence, simplicity, trust and unconditional love. No matter how old I am, I'll always have a Raggedy Ann close by.

Eyes on my teddy bear

When my little girl inside needs reassurance I can see it in the eyes on my teddy bear. They look up at me with dark searching eyes looking for me the adult to let her know she is wanted and loved. I am adopted and finding my birth mother was not hard. She was my aunt and she told me at 16 very very unlovingly which set me up to feel more rejection than I originally felt at being adopted. My major need of my little girl is to feel wanted and I see it in my teddy's eyes and I hug and hug on that teddy till I can feel my little girl inside really knowing I want her. I want her. Then I feel a wholeness I never thought I could ever feel.

Play Ground

During my childhood and teenage years a loved going to the playground park. It was huge and full of joy, peace, happiness and fun. So every now and then I go to a large park and playground nearby ( not my childhood playground) and I walk around the whole park. It is surprising to see the benefits of doing this. When I reach the goal at the end of the park; I feel so much better, happier and I glow. I know this because my friends and co-workers make comments about me looking different.
—Guest Stephanie

Climbing trees

As a child I remembered climbing trees, picking fruit from our garden and laying on a sheet in my back yard eating strawberries and plums, making preserves with my grandma and collecting bugs. Anything that has to do with nature awakens my inner child.
—Guest Keneda

creative memories

When I want to nurture my inner child I go and carry out an activity like colouring in, drawing, painting, making things with Play Doh - all these remind me of activities I did when I was a child that made me feel happy and calm. I also had a lot of stuffed toys way back when, now I only have a few, but there is nothing like cuddling up to one of my teddy bears when I need comforting. I hope this gives readers some more insight into ways of soothing the inner child.
—Guest Sherry

Finding the Child within you

In our creative pursuits if we wish to let creativity flow then we really to become more childlike. This is of-course different to being childish, which is what most likely happened when our parents wounded us --- we were childlike and they were childish. So yes I suppose that I am saying to be fully adult is to be childlike. I wrote a seven sentence blog called finding the child within you. Take a look if you wish (http://sevensentences.com/2011/06/13/child-within-you/). Best, Geoff

toy blocks

I used to play with them every afternoon till I started going to pre-school. Then when I come home, I would still play. You can build anything you like - towns, villages, homes.

Childhood Pictures

I have several pictures of me between the ages of 2-6 years. I keep them in places where I can see them often (next to my bed, on the wall above my make-up table, in the bathroom, etc.) These are sweet reminders that she is with me always. I send her love each time I see her precious face and that shy smile!
—Guest Sandee

Stuffed Animals

I have three stuffed animals I keep around for my inner child. I'll carry them around the house.
—Guest Kelly Gray


When my inner child needs some extra love and care, I cuddle up under a quilt and read her a book.
—Guest Shannon

Milk Toast

When I was little my mother use to make me milk toast whenever I was feeling sick. She would make me a slice of buttered toast with cinnamon sugar sprinkled on top. Then warm milk is poured over the toast in a shallow bowl. I would slurp up the soggy warm bread and milk with a spoon. Milk toast is a true comfort food made with love for a sick child. As an adult I have made milk toast for myself a few times when my inner child needed nurturing. It isn't quite as good as when my mom made it for me, but it conjures up loving memories. Good stuff!

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