Confused
- Recently found out that empath is an actual thing, i was spiraling and thought I was going insane. All my thoughts and feeling were jumbled and messed up. I didn't know what I was feeling. Thank God I'm not alone, and I'm not crazy. :) Still find it difficult to know what are my feelings and other peoples though.
- —Guest luigi
Since birth...
- Ever since I was born I could tell what others intentions were. I am 22 and in college. I have been labeled the protector and guider by the people that know me. When I was 9 I began to counsel people that were in their late 20's and even 30's married with children. I was never really a child. Blocking others emotions is really good when you're having your own crisis. But thankfully I've learned to balance the two (my own and others) emotions. At times it feels like a curse and other times it has saved my life, literally. Even when it seems like a curse I wouldn't trade it for anything. Ever since I was around 3 or 4 I had dreams and visions of the man that I am to marry. I heard his thoughts and felt his emotions. I even saw his children before they were born. I recently met him and it was pretty difficult explaining all of this to him. Especially since he's not really had an encounters with this kind of thing. Even through all of the pain that I have felt I wouldn't trade it for anything.
- —Guest Misty Dawn
The negatives make me feel negative
- I don't like always having to hide out in my room but sometimes I don't have a choice. I've read more books than I can count and thank God I live in the Caribbean and can go to the beach often. These are my escapes from people and their feelings. These and my dog :) My friends always accuse me of being a 'flake' and my family is convinced that I don't like to go out. I like being around people, it's just the burden of everyone's emotions that I can't take. I feel physically drained after a day at school. I pray and ask God for the strength to deal with all that I'm faced with and most days I cope well. Some are quite enjoyable too, but others... I just wanna scream AHHHH!!!! I like being able to help others but sometimes... sometimes I wish I could just feel... less. (I wonder if it would be better if I could NOT feel what others are feeling) *Sigh* I guess in life you just have to take things with its positive and negative aspects. If only the negative didn't leave me feeling so negative.
- —Guest Tiffany
Glad to know but... Blessing/Curse?
- I'm glad I found out about empaths. I heard the term by chance and decided to check it out. Now I don't feel so worried about myself. I am described as being too sensitive by my family members and close friends. I began thinking that I had a mental disorder or was emotionally unstable. I always cry when I sense that a family member is hurting inside. And I'm always the one people confide in, even complete strangers. I'm not so sure if this empath thing is good/bad. I like being able to assess situations and know how to handle the people I come into contact with but when I reflect I sometimes feel as if I don't know who I really am. I ask myself "Was I really feeling that happy or was I faking it?" I don't like pretentious people and I wondered if I was a hypocrite. In the moment I genuinely feel the emotions but when I'm alone I think "I had no reason to feel that strongly after hearing that news" or whatever. I would like to be more aware of what's going on inside me instead of with other people.
- —Guest Tiffany
Absorbing others feelings
- My girlfreind and I are both empaths. We are currently in seperate places. Today she was having some conflicts with some people she lives with. She called me crying and told me about it. After the phone conversation, I kept thinking I don't want her to be going through this, she doesnt need this stress and I suddenly felt sick to my stomach. I sent her a text saying "I feel sick to my stomach all of a sudden." She told me when we talked on the phone a few hours later that she suddenly felt better right before I sent her that text. I wasn't surprised that I absorbed her feelings into my own body and took them from her. These kind of things are not new but hadn't had an occurence before where I took thme from her to the point of her feeling better and me feeling sick. My empath abilities seem to be heightening in recent months.
- —Guest Kaid
Wow, this explains me!
- It has taken me 56 years to finally realize what I am. When I was little, I would easily cry and feel other peoples' feelings. I didn't understand it. I preferred isolation (not that I didn't have friends, but usually one at a time).I didn't feel like other people. I was told I was 'too sensitive.' (whatever that meant to me at the time) I was happiest alone yet I craved friends, etc. It became harder as I grew up. I could 'read between the lines'. I knew when people were lying. I could feel it, sense it. It made life uncomfortable at times because I was overwhelmed. I just recently refused to return to a school that I was attending because of the BS that was going on around me and it made me nauseous to be surrounded by all this. I couldn't continue there. Now I know that I'm just blessed with perception that most other people don't have. Don't lie to me, you can't hide it, you can't cover it up with sweetness. It's there and I can see it (whether you really want me to or not!).
- —maryjaa
I feel twisted
- It is so hard to be around groups of people now I can't stop feeling. I am afraid it is going to be the death of me.
- —Guest shaw
Is it really that simple?
- I have only recently discovered I am an Empath (didn't know it existed before). I hated my sensitivity as felt it caused me to be 'walked over,' especially in my younger years. It caused me much confusion as when I helped people, I was viewed as kind and spiritual, yet when it suited them, I was weak and gullible. As much as empaths love to help people, you must be careful not to allow yourself to be used and ensure your own needs are being met. How many times is there no one around when you need them, no matter how many times you have helped them? I wonder if we really are 'different' or are we a little more evolved spiritually at this stage in our life path? (and I mean that in terms of reincarnation and life's journey). My main message to all is to look after yourself, and, of course to help others evolve and grow in their own life path, but never forget the importance of 'you.' mimi xxx
- —Guest Mimi
Empathis for a reason
- I'm now 61 years old and have known that I'm empathic since early childhood. The characteristics are just as strong today as they were as a child and quite often I find them amusing. I can't tell you how many movies I've walked out of because I couldn't handle the portrayed violence. It's impossible for me to sit and watch television. Forget watching the news or reading the news. And then there are people that give off negative energy whom I've learned to avoid. To me, they're psychic vampires and I can't be around them for very long. I'm in recovery 24 years for alcholism and I run into a lot of empaths in recovery. Nothing works better than alcohol to dull the senses, for awhile anyway. I have learned to define and defend my boundaries. I will give so much and that's it. Give anymore and there won't be anything left so that I can function. I'm blessed to have a good number of understanding and caring friends. They sunderstand and don't mind when I suddenly need to leave. -Pat
- —Pattech2000
Such a relief to know!!!!
- I have known for years that I have other capabilities that most people don't - But i never understood that my complete oversensitivity and overwelming emotions were a part of that gift. I just began learning what an empath trully is and why I am constantly feeling attacked by emotions. I constantly feel attacked by negative people/emotions. I can 'feel' another person's intentions and thoughts before i even see them. One night in college, I woke up completely unable to breath - gasping for breath like someone had been sitting on me. After about 3 minutes I calmed down and went back to sleep. The next morning my mom called to tell me that my grandpa had died around 3am due to lung failure. But the biggest issue I face is figuring out how to not let being an empath strangle me and render me useless. In a way it is a way for me to feel my way through life and I feel vulnerable without it. But at the same time crippled!!
- —Guest Kristen
Empath?
- Hello. I'm a teen and i could never find out what i am. People always used to pour all their problems on me, or call me "special" or "An angel without its wings." I personally didn't understand what they meant. I thought I was normal. I would listen to whatever problems that people have and afterwards, they will say "i feel much better" but as for me, after I go to sleep, I would have vivid dreams and wake up feeling bad. I would even become depressed for days, but still helping people who needed. Pushing my problems aside once more. I always thought I was just a depressing person. Never did I think of being an Empath. People, even strangers, would trust me so easily and tell me things. Lately I've been having mood swings, something I never really had before. And I have the feeling of not wanting to care but yet still find myself trying to help or feeling horrible when I don't try to help. I guess its a gift & curse. Am I an empath? For me, its hard to determine. Help me please..
- —Guest Sky
Herion was my only escape...
- Ever since I can remember I could never understand the heartlessness and suffering I saw from everywhere and why did no one do anything about it(!?!). Being Aquarius just intensified it. By the age of 8, I went into a depression. By 11 it caused problems in an already abusive and unstable home, so I started running away. I felt absolutely voiceless and helpless to do anything to stop or change the suffering. And what truly seemed worse was that no one around me cared! That there was SO MUCH PAIN around the world! I was surrounded in complacency and apathy! By age 13, I was using heroin. And I fell in love with it! I didn't have to feel anymore! I mean I still felt things, I just didn't care that I did. I'm almost 30 now, and honestly if not for the opiate-replacement therapy I would still be living in a cardboard box in an alley in LA. I can see how it could be a Pro, but without an outlet,especially for the young, it's very much a Con. I wish I had known then what I do now. -Leah
- —Opiateofthemasses
Amazing....
- For a long while, I didn't understand empathy. Didn't know what it was, didn't know what *I* was. My father was mentally abusive, therefore there was a lot of physical and mental pain I suffered in the twelve years I lived with him. When I, along with my mother and brother, ran away from him, and a few days prior when my mom was planning the get away, I felt an overwhelming sense of joy, anxiety, and a practically nauseating sense of freedom. Sadly, this wasn't the end. For months on end my emotions were out of control as those around me adjusted, I adjusted, we suffered medical and financial issues, and the stress of living with my sister and her family of four in a two bedroom house. Things got better, slowly, and we eventually moved away from her. There were occasions when I'd be the one listening to people complain, and I'd almost get a sick joy out of it because I was so desperate to HELP them. Fast forward a few months and things are out of control again. I get depressed, a sense of lost, confusion, pain, anger. Often couldn't sleep at night and would cry uncontrollably. I later found out my mother had been suffering symptoms of D.I.D. (a multiple personality didorder) and was trying to get sober (I wasn't shocked at either news, but neither had I known this was going on. I felt shame, her shame, and a deep need to provide affection and reassurance). I had also wanted to be a vet most my life, but for the past four years found a calling to writing. I'm rather shy, a social recluse, wanting to stay at the house rather than meet up with friends, but always thought that was because of my fathers mental abuse. Now, I realize, it could be something else entirely. It's simply amazing to know that I'm not alone, never was alone, in this. There have been a lot of stressful situations lately, some of which I believe have made me physically ill, but it's good to know why it always felt different, worse for me than others'. I think this is a blessing, to be honest, but I also know how it can be a curse to many.
- —Guest Hannah
Maybe Giving Others Diseases
- Well I'm really young, and i just realized that I've healed many people only because I would take in their negative energies. However, being in China the elders taught me to control it. But I'm having problems keeping my energy positive right now... and now I'm giving others diseases... maybe I'm not.. but everyone I came in contact with, they became sick the next day. Or later on received cancer...
- —Guest Von
it is great and bad at the same time
- I read people's emotions which can help someone. At the same time, I tend to wear their emotions as well as mine like clothing.
- —Guest Andrea
