About the Person I Love
He supports me in every way without believing in any of my doubts about myself. He encourages me to do what I want to do, and supports me in every way while I do it, even if it is not something he believes in himself. He loves me the way I am; and though he doesn't always understand me; he never judges me. He is logic where I am emotion, but we compliment each other instead of contradicting each other. He is my love.
My Personal Love Story
My husband and I worked together for many years. He was friends with many of my work friends, but he and I were on opposite ends of many work disputes. For years my husband and I could not stand each other. I honestly broke out in hives every time I had a meeting with him.
One of my good friends casually dated him for a while. She got a job out of town, and stayed with me for a few weeks before leaving town. She had friendly plans one night to go to my husband's house and hang out with him and his roommate. She asked me to go, because at the time I was brokenhearted about a relationship gone bad. I gave her an emphatic "no way" and she was honestly disappointed.
She told me then that she thought it was terrible that my husband and I did not like each other. She told me how highly she thought of us both, and how much we had in common. Something about her words made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. I can distinctly remember saying a prayer that night that he was not the true love I had been waiting for.
Six months later, after my husband had gotten a job at another company, he tagged along on a dinner outing I had with some other friends. I was disappointed to see him there. I thought to myself, "this will be an early night." My husband asked me to sit by him and pulled me out a chair. We spent the night talking and laughing and singing karaoke. I think I fell in love with him that night.
It honestly took me a year of trying and praying after that to get him to ask me out on a date. His roommate, who was a friend of mine finally talked him into asking me out. We had a wonderful time and a year later we were married. It honestly felt like we had been waiting for each other that whole time, but were both too stubborn and blind to see it.
My husband and I rarely disagree or argue anymore. We laugh that we got all of it out of the way when we didn't like each other. He is the light of my life and with him I have built the life that I always dreamed I would have. He is the greatest gift the divine ever gave me, and I am so proud to be his wife.
Advice
- Pick your battles. If what you are upset about will not change after talking about it then it might be something you have to accept. I am not saying don't talk about your feelings, but there are things about everyone that we have to love them in spite of, and they us.
- Do not borrow trouble by asking questions you don't want the answer to.
- Listen to your partner without judging. You don't have to fix things for them, but providing an ear and understanding goes a long way.
- Laugh together every chance you get. Laughter will make good times better and help the pain of all your hard times.
Additional Comments
If you are not in a relationship and are lonely, do what makes you happy in life. Find a hobby or a pass time that fills your heart with joy. Happy people are beautiful to others, and you will be in the right place when the right one comes if you can make yourself happy before you meet them.
