About Me
I am a 56 year old divorced woman who was married to an alcoholic for 30 years. I finally got the nerve up to leave after trying every avenue from denial to counselling. It has been a few years since the divorce was final but I am a much happier, peaceful person. I am not currently dating because I am not willing to settle for just anyone instead of being alone. I have come to value my aloneness as a time of peaceful reflection not something to be feared.
My Healing Tip
I found great solace in learning to sit with my own silence and start each day in silence, which I have come to enjoy so much. I take about half an hour and drink a coffee in complete silence, light a few candles, and just think about nothing in particular. It helps to really balance and centre me before I start my day. Don't be afraid of being by yourself! You are not alone.
Lessons Learned
- Unless I am a priority in someone's life I don't want to be there.
- Being a priority is how you are treated NOT in what you are told.
- Words are cheap, but I am not.
- I would rather be alone and happy than married to the wrong person and miserable.
- In my case marriage was nothing more than a continual source of drama, trying to fix someone, and a false sense of trusting in a person.
- I no longer fear what tomorrow will bring.
- My God did not bring me this far to abandon me. He will take care of tomorrow. I Thank the Lord.
