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Balancing Your Spiritual Principles with Ordinary Life

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Reader Question: My spiritual path is becoming my priority, and lots of intense changes are happening in my life and relationships. I feel like my spiritual life is ruining my ordinary life, but I don't want to stop it..

Response from Anandra: For dedicated practitioners of meditation, mantra, or any tried and true spiritual discipline, a feeling of exuberance for the spiritual path sets in after we cross some initial hurdles of inertia. Inspired by glimpses of lightness and freedom, momentum builds and life begins to organize itself around creating the optimum environment for full realization. It is an unspeakably beautiful thing to reconnect with our true infinite being, and to consciously dedicate the purpose of our life to realizing that fully.

This acceleration is well-known to experienced seekers.

To change your experience of life, nothing need change in your external circumstances, only your frame of mind. I don’t advocate rash changes (divorce, job change, move location), which can be unsettling and distract from the real inner work of rooting out the root causes of your suffering. After all, until you dig deep down into your belief systems to discover where you’ve been operating from a non-serving framework, and resolve it at its source, any external change (location, job, relationship, etc.) will be a temporary band-aid. If you attach your hope for happiness in that external change, then when that band-aid falls off, as it inevitably will, you’ll be left in even deeper despair and anxiety.

That said, it is natural that structures you built from old personality dynamics will fall away as you change within. You may see with crystal clarity that a relationship is built on a false foundation; a career is built on an ego need you’re no longer interested in fulfilling; an environment clearly does not make your soul sing.

In this case, I advise you to make changes in your life with grace, propelled by deep inner guidance, and be careful to ask yourself at every turn if you're running from something. When it is truly right for your soul, it will serve everyone around you as well. If you cannot see a way to make the change without causing damage, look again and get some outside perspective.

Having a coach to guide you through these transitions can make the difference between trauma and grace. Empowered with the tools clear inner guidance, communication, and intelligent strategy, you can build your expanding life in the most beautiful way.

Anandra, Intuitive Life Coach

Disclaimer: Anandra's advice is not meant to override your personal health providers' recommendations/prescriptions, but is intended to offer a new perspective and encourage your inner wisdom to guide the best course of action.

Each week, we invite a different intuitive to answer a question from a reader. If you'd like to submit a question for Anandra please email her directly.

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