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Language of Love

Exploring Types of Love


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Self Love

Love yourself first! Until you are able to embrace self love it will be really difficult to truly love others or attract love from others. Some people equate self love as a selfish act or a form of narcissism. Self love has nothing to do with narcissism. Narcissism is a pathological disorder. Loving yourself is about self acceptance and learning not to focus on your imperfections. We are so much more than our flaws and our mistakes. Humans are all perfectly imperfect and for this reason we are here on the planet to learn and strive to be better persons. Love yourself and love your life journey.

Brotherly Love

Brotherly Love would fall more under mutual respect. It is a love for your fellowman or kinsman. It falls under the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. One way of extending brotherly love is Namaste, which means acknowledging the god/goddess light in one another.


You know the crushing-feeling if you have ever gone off the deep-end gaw-gaw for another person. The Crushie places someone on a pedestal, thinking that he or she can do no wrong. There is a sense that there is no chance to ever requite your love for an adored person. You are simply a Pawn in this mental chess game you're playing by adoring the King or Queen and wishful for any scraps of attention that might be thrown your way. A Crush is not Love, but it certainly is confusing. Having a Crush from a distance is also a safe-love stance. You can safely adore someone from afar and not get hurt.

Karmic Love / Contractual Love

In these types of love relationships the pairing usually starts off with a strong attraction that pulls two people together. The magnetic pull is necessary to bring them together to form their karma-based relationship. Karma is about pay-back and learning from past mistakes. Few people would choose to enter a relationship with fore-knowledge that it is going to involve conflict and trials. Often times these relationships are labeled as "Love-Hate" relationships. The individuals can't get enough of one another romantically or sexually, but they seldom get along otherwise. Often times difficult emotional lessons are being taught and learned in karmic-tied partnerships.

Contractual Love is similar to Karmic Love, but there is more choice involved in this type of pairing. These partnerships are not formed to pay penance for past misdeeds or to even the karmic scoreboard. These contracts are entered with specific goals in mind. There is an understanding at a soul-knowing level that their pairing will benefit one another somehow. Contractual partnerships are generally supportive relationships.

Is Your Past-Life Karma Spoiling Your Love Life?

Obsession / Addictive Love

I hesitate to associate the terms "obsession" or "addiction" with love. This is not Love, it is Control, or probably more likely, Lack-of-Control. Sometimes struggling to maintain or renew bad relationships is simply a bad habit. You can get so caught up in your current situation that you are not able to see a way out. Sadly, we can become comfortable in our difficult relationships because they feel so familiar.

Are You Hopelessly Addicted to Romance?

Puppy Love

Puppy Love is so adorable and sweet. This is when two young hearts go pitter-patter for one another. This naive type of love has the smell of fresh Spring air. Puppy Love is a wondrous and unharnessed love that sees no boundaries. We've all been there and for anyone who can remember that rush of adrenaline feeling filled with emotion and idealism - it is a cherished memory. Puppy Love is a love that stands apart because it occurs before having experienced the pain of a broken heart, or the agony of a love gone sour.

Star-Crossed Love

Compatibility reports (astrology, numerology, enneagram) can signify the traits, characteristics of the perfect match for you. Do you really think that if it were not for the help of cupid that you could flounder alone for years and never find your soul mate? Aunt Bessie, the family's eccentric matchmaker, may really know what's best for you. What? What is all the fuss about having a soul mate anyway? Why don't Mars and Venus play well together?

Tough Love

Tough Love is not really a type of love, but a strong path that is taken to step away from control or desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. In some cases, no substance abuse is indicated, but an unmotivated person who has been taking advantage of your caring ways needs to kicked to the curb. There is a lesson for both individuals in this Tough Love scenario. The caregiver learns to not be so giving of themselves and will allow the other person space in which to help himself. The dependent one is shown that he needs to take charge of his own life. Tough love can be "sink or swim" and can be heart-wrenching situation to endure. But when the swimmer rises from the depths of his dependence and becomes fully his own person, it is a win-win for both individuals.

Cutting Family Ties That Bind Us

Unconditional Love

Perfection! If there ever was a perfect love it would be Unconditional Love. We've all heard about Unconditional Love and many of us strive to embrace this type of love. Unconditional Love is a maternal instinct and can occur naturally. But, it is also natural to get side-tracked with our judgments, expectations, and good intentions. You don't have to approve of or agree with someone's life choices to love him or her unconditionally. Try it. Unconditional Love is the Ultimate!

Story of Unconditional Love and Forgiveness

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