The Coven Abuse Self Help Index

(a) Do they forbid you to investigate other covens or to talk to people from other covens or organizations?

(b) Are you encouraged to keep silent about behaviors you witness in coven? Not necessarily oathbound coven secrets which are normal to remain silent about, but about how people treat one another? How interpersonal interactions affect others?

(a) Is there one person that always seems to receive the brunt of the Leader/s anger? (Reference 4b, above)

(b) In your opinion has that person done anything to warrant such angry treatment?

(a) Do they blame you or others for abuses they have perpetrated on you? (eg; "You made me do it.")

(b) Do they use "projection" - accusing you or others of perpetrating the same abuses they themselves have perpetrated while staunchly denying their own culpability?

(c) Do they constantly point to "misunderstandings", yours or others supposed "lack of spiritual growth", a malignant juxtaposition of the stars or other seemingly thin excuses for their own behavior?

(a) Do the Leader/s, Priest/esses or other significant members of the Coven engage in abusive behaviors while possessed of Deity/Spirit or in the trance state? If so, is this a solo effort on the part of one or two? A concerted effort on the part of many?

(b) Do they blame Spirit, Deity or drugs for their abusive behavior? Eg; "The God/dess made me do it" -or- "It was the God/dess, not me" -or- "That's the booze talking, not me." etc.

(b) Does said person often seem not to know what you are talking about when you refer to past conversation? Do they claim they never said what you know they did? Do they claim you never told them things that you know you did?

13) Are the Leader/s, Priest/esses or other significant members of the Coven hypersensitive to any form of criticism? Do they allow and encourage appropriate constructive criticism? Do they quash any inkling of an idea that they are in any way lacking or behaving abnormally?

(a) Opposite to quashing criticism, do they seem not to know what to do with it? Do they fence-ride on issues of interest and relevance? Is the Leader's style of management wishy-washy and poorly defined? Do they seem not to want to hurt anyone by giving opinion? Do they have a recognizable set of values or do they go with whatever others in the group want?

(a) How do the Leader/s, Priest/esses or other significant members of the Coven feel with regard to persons of different races or sexual orientations than themselves? Do they advocate treating such persons differently than others?

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