- (a) Is there an attempt to isolate you from family or from friends that you had prior to entering the coven?
(b) Is there significant factionalism within the coven? Sub-groups that others in the coven point to and suggest or demand you not associate with? One or two persons in the coven that everyone else dislikes but nothing is done about?
(c) Is there an "approved list" and/or a "disapproved list" of people, institutions and ideals you should or should not associate with or espouse?
- (a) Do they monitor your finances in any way or demand payments in any form for his/her/their services or "protection"?
(b) Do the Leader/s, Priest/esses or other significant members of the Coven behave honorably with regard to their own money and personal possessions? Other people's money and possessions?
- (a) Are you or others frequently asked to help clean up this person's life? Constantly being asked to babysit their children while they firefight? Emergency calls to help run them to shop or on other errands not connected with Coven activities? Loan them money?
(b) Do the coven leaders or other significant members seem obsessed with cursing or hexing others? Do they blame everything wrong about their lives on others, particularly on spells or hexes they feel they might be under themselves? Are they constantly accusing others of attack, personal or magickal? Are they reliably melodramatic about the supposed threats they are under?
- (a) If "yes" to the above, notice with whom and where this happens. In front of other Coveners only? In front of those outside or not connected with the Coven? In secret, just to you, not in front of anyone else?
(b) Have you or anyone else become a "coven scapegoat" - a person that is habitually held up to scorn and criticism? Does that person in your estimation deserve the scorn heaped upon them?
(c) Are they impeccable with their word or do their words and actions often seem dissonant? Does gossip about yourself or others come back to you, allegedly from Coven leadership? Alternatively, do Coven leaders constantly tell you you have faults because they allegedly hear about them from others? Do they "use" this information against you in any way?
(d) Do they "use" other people's alleged information against you as a substitute for taking a stand themselves or instead of responsibly making you aware of their own perceptions? Do they blame you for things based on the opinions of others they cite without bothering to hear your side of the story? Are you allowed to tell your side and is it responsibly taken into account by the Leader/s, Priest/esses and other significant members of the Coven?
- (a) Do they force you or others to do what you don't want to do Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?
(b) Do they not listen to you when you tell them of your discomfort in forced situations? Do they make fun of your discomfort or constantly chalk it up to a lack of spiritual development on your part?
c) Are things like coven secrets, levels of initiation or other information or elevation held over your head to get you to behave the way the Leader/s, Priest/esses or other significant members of the Coven want you to?
- (a) Have they threatened you or others with physical violence? When? Under what circumstances?
(b) Do they treat you/others roughly, or touch you inappropriately?
(c) Do they refuse to back off when asked? Do they use excuses for their violent behavior?
(d) Do they threaten you or others with spiritual violence or psychic attack? How did you perceive this? (eg; did you perceive it psychically, were you told by the Leader/s, did the alleged victim tell you, etc?)
- (a) How are those persons connected with the Coven? Is there cliquishness involved?
(b) How differently are persons inside and outside inner and intra-Coven cliques treated?