How many times in life have you been excited and encouraged about life getting better, and then let old energy patterns of fear and doubt overcome and start to defeat you? As you become more awake and aware, you will realize that you always have the choice to continue the past pattern and be in your old energy, or to choose the new energy. By keeping your intention signal strong and clear, and never giving up and surrendering to the old energy, your dreams will come true. When you notice you are in an old energy pattern, say to yourself: "I must have wanted to experience this again. I am forgiving myself for thinking I deserve this. I am choosing to live in the new energy of me. I am loved, supported and now learning and growing through joyous experiences. I am experiencing that what I want is good and I can have it easily and effortlessly."

We live on a planet of free choice. God has endowed each of us with the agency to create and govern our own lives. We have each been born with the light of Christ in us. Everyone has been blessed with a guidance system that is directly connected to the Holy Spirit and Christ energy. We each have the capacity of knowing, truly knowing what is right for us.

I have worked with numerous individuals who believe they don't know what is right for them, or if they do, they don't expect it to happen or believe they can have it. They have developed patterns of thinking of what others needs and wants are first and ignoring their own. In most cases they are completely out of touch with their own needs, wants, and desires, because they are so conditioned to making sure others are happy. This behavior is typically a by-product of their childhood experience with their parents. In most cases, as children they sacrificed having their own needs met in lieu of their mother's needs being met. As a small child they believed that if they did not have any needs maybe Mom would be happier. They have deeply held beliefs like:

• Mom's needs are more important then mine, which translates in their adult life to, other's needs are more important than mine.
• My needs and desires don't matter.
• If I ask for it, I won't get it.
• It's okay if it doesn't happen, because I really didn't want it anyway.
• I'm not important.
• I want others to know what I need without asking.
• I have to please others to be okay.

Someone with these deeper beliefs typically has a pattern of justifying, defending, and explaining themselves when they ask for what they want or when they share a decision they have made about their lives.

Every time I asked my client Stacey, "What do you want," she replied, "I don't know." She responded "I don't know" dozens of times during her session. She was stuck in a state of "not knowing." She had been raised by a mother that was very depressed and unhappy. She discovered that as a small child she had abandoned her own needs and desires in the hope that trying to meet her mother's needs would help her feel happy. I asked her, "Did it work? Was your mother happier as a result of your efforts?" She said, "No!" I asked her, "Why are you still recreating this pattern for others in your life now? It didn't work then, why would it now?" She became more and more clear that every individual is in charge of creating their own happiness. We cannot do it for each other, we can only come together and add to the joy others are initiating for themselves. As we worked at the subconscious level, clearing her inner-child fears and beliefs, Stacey began to experience the awakening of her own knowing. She recognized the habit she had of justifying, defending, and explaining herself when she shared with her husband what she knew was right for her. She wanted to go back to school and finish her degree. She only needed to complete less than a year of course work. She had left school when she had her first of two children, because she did not want her children to make sacrifices for her, as she had done for her mother. Now that her children were in grade school, she knew it would be manageable to go back to school. We wrote up scripts during her sessions and she practiced them. This was a new way of communicating for her and she needed help with the words. I told her to start with a few simple decisions and get comfortable in stating what she wanted, free of the justifications. She started with things like, "I am going jogging and I'll be back in forty-five minutes, thanks for watching the kids while I am gone." "No, I don't want to go to that movie, is there another activity we could do we both would enjoy?"

Stacy recognized that her belief in not being able to have what she wanted, and that if she did, others would not support her, attracted her husband and others to respond to her negatively. I asked her if she could imagine her husband being loving and supportive of her choices and decisions. At first this was hard because she had experienced him being resistive so many times in the past. I reminded her to observe less about what had happened in her life and imagine more of what she wanted. She took time to imagine her husband with a new script of loving, encouraging and supporting her decisions. She practiced affirmations like, "I am saying what is right for me easily," "I am experiencing others are supportive of my choices." She also asked her angels to orchestrate the details to make it possible for her to complete her schooling. As a result she attracted her husband and others to respond to her agreeably and supportively. When she shared with her husband that she knew it was right for her to go back to school, he was open to it and together they worked out a plan for this to happen. She experienced the power she has to create what she knew was right as her spirit was guiding her, and how to influence others showing up in support of her choices. She stopped saying "I don't know" in her sessions and replaced it with "I know what is right for me, and I am co-creating it with God and all the spiritual help he has provided for me."

If you have a pattern of justifying, defending, and explaining yourself, you are still believing you are not good enough and you can't have what you want. You set yourself up to create disharmony in your desire because you kink up the energy of your desire manifesting easily by your deeper negative belief.

The next time you make a decision that is right for you and ask for what you want, believe you can have it. Let go of justifying, explaining and defending your choice, and know that God wants you to use your creative powers to bless your life.

This planet of free choice is continuing to move to her heavenly celestial glory and to become a heaven on earth. As the earth vibrates at a higher rate, we may find our bodies, emotions and mental states reacting in strange and different ways. The exciting news is that as our creative powers are increasing, our intentions, beliefs, and thoughts are manifesting almost immediately. Whether you believe it or not, you are the creator of your reality. Start partnering with God to create a reality that brings you joy. You'll find it easier and more fun than the painful one you used to create.

Carol Tuttle, MRET is a Master Rapid Eye Therapist in private practice in Utah. She is a gifted energy psychologist and spiritual healer who has assisted thousands in creating the lives they want and deserve. As an author, she has written several magazine and online articles and two books. Her latest book, Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21st Century, has been hailed "the ultimate self-help book, it will change your life and your world. Just reading it helps you heal." For more information: www.caroltuttle.com, or carol@caroltuttle.com