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Parts of My Wholistic Self

By May 8, 2006

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Sometimes I think people confuse the holistic approach of living with being holy or extremely spiritual. Whoa!!! That thinking is so wrong. I take a holistic view all right, and I do consider myself to be a spiritual being, but I'm far from holy. I'm always surprised when someone assumes that I'm a vegetarian (I'm not! I'm a flexitarian-wanna-be) or that I spend at least an hour every day meditating, or sitting in the lotus pose (I don't). And I can feel outraged whenever I get a scolding email from a reader. I recall an email from someone attempting to shame me for admitting that I enjoy drinking a cold beer (I'm trying to lower my cholesterol). I think some people just like to scold others for whatever reason. Oh pooh!

Being holistic (wholistic) does have its spiritual component, but that's just one of the many parts. The primary components of holistic living include the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. The "whole" idea of being holistic is to not ignore any of your individual parts, but to acknowledge and embrace all your parts equally. It's really about balance.

On a personal level we all have many different parts within these four major components. I thought I would share a few of the parts-of-my-whole with you in my post today. It is meant to be a fun and light-hearted posting, and also give you a chance to get to know me as a person more fully.

Waking Up My Whole Self / My Morning Routine

I'm really bad at skipping breakfast. For years I didn't eat a crumb before lunchtime. But now I really try to fix myself a smoothie for breakfast 3-4 times a week. Another breakfast favorite is Grape-Nuts cereal topped with blackberries and walnuts (but I like this as a bedtime snack too!). To wake up my mind I enjoy solving the daily SuDoKu puzzle in our local newspaper. It is not too mind-boggling, but does take a bit of thinking. Naturally, my morning routine includes reading my email.

I'm a Mom

Motherhood is a big part of who I am. I started early and had all my children (two sons and a daughter) by the age of 23. I loved playing with dolls as a child and knew instinctively that I was destined to be a mom. What I didn't know was that for many of those early years of raising my children I would be a single mom by circumstance of divorce. But, no matter. I was a strong and independent woman. I didn't always do everything perfectly, and I could have done better if I had bothered to read some parenting books to help guide me. But, somehow I managed to get them grown and help give them a jump start in their adulthood. I'm an empty nester and the proud mother of a nurse, an educator, and a wood furniture craftsman. Once you're a mom, you're a mom for life! I wouldn't have it any other way.

Lifework: Healer / Spiritual Counselor

The first time someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said that I wanted to be a mommy. But, I was told that I could be a mommy AND also choose another career if I wanted to. Outside of wanting to be a mom I was short on ideas of what to be. So, I decided I'd like to be a nurse because that is what my cousin told me she wanted to be. Years later, after becoming a working stiff and having taken on a variety of jobs to pay the bills I pretty much decided that if I had my druthers, my dream job would be to work either as a bartender or a gypsy fortune teller. I savored the idea of being a bartender because I enjoyed the occasions whenever I was socially belly-up-to-the-bar. Dare I mention that I used to be a weekend barfly? I enjoyed talking to bar patrons. Drinkers will open up their emotional hearts. They become uninhibited due to the alcohol consumption and will share their heart-felt life stories, although at times the tales were gut-wrenching. Barkeeps are touted for being good listeners and are often advisors-of-sorts to their patrons. The idea of being a gypsy fortune teller was truly fantasy, although I did moonlight by reading tarot cards in my twenties. This lofty dream fed the spiritual component of my being because I am clairvoyant and am open to receiving intuited messages. Oddly enough, if you consider the combined elements from these three occupations (nurse, bartender, and gypsy) they fit pretty well into my lifework as an energy medicine practitioner and spiritual counselor. Who woulda thunk?

Favorite Healthy Foods I Love

Almonds, avocados, mangos, blackberries, pears, sweet potatoes, merlot, black beans, salsa, asparagas, turnip greens, and garlic.

Sugar Addiction

Although, I try to bring balance into my diet I do recognize that some of my cravings are less than healthy. I am really unhappy if I don't get to have a little sweetness in my diet. However, I can easily consume too much sugar if I'm not watchful. I figure a little sugar in my diet is okay, but a lot of sugar would be overly indulgent. I allow myself one (sometimes two) cans of cola everyday. My primary cocktail addiction is Cherry Coca Cola (sugar, caffeine and fruit mix). The cherry syrup IS a fruit right? Okay, I'm bad to say that. Whenever I'm on vacation I'm indulgent! On special occasions I'm indulgent. I will order cheesecake for dessert whenever I'm on vacation. I eat cotton candy at the carnival. Obviously, I don't mind getting my fingers sticky.

I Hate Exercising

What I am is lazy, exercise has never been a priority in my life. I just as soon sit or lay down as get up and do something that is going to make me sweat. I'd rather be at my computer, watching television, or reading a good book. But, mainly I feel that exercise is boring. I don't feel as if I'm getting anywhere doing it. Walking or running at the gym makes me feel trapped like a hamster running in circles inside that crazy insane wheel. I am okay with yoga or pilates, but I tend to do these in phases. I'm currently in a slacker phase. My current exercise routine consists primarily of tending my laundry. My husband and I live in a two story home. Our laundry room is in the basement. I will carry baskets jam-packed with dirty laundry down two flights of stairs from the upstairs bedroom to the basement. After washing each washer load I will tote the wet clothing outside and hanging them on the clothesline. Big whoop! Getting my laundry chores done at least accomplishes something, and that's a good thing.

Interests / Hobbies

I'm very lucky because my occupation of being a holistic healer and writing about holistic topics on the Internet fits perfectly into my lifepath. When your job and your lifepath are cohesive the need for hobbies or diversions is lessened. Even so, I do have a few things that I enjoy doing that help balance my tendency to work too many hours at the work I love. Watching my daytime SOAP (All My Children), knitting, travel, and hanging out with friends are favorite diversions.

My Love Life

My love life is private! Although, I will admit that I'm a romantic creature. And lucky me, I am married to a man who, in his own way, is probably more romantic than I am. My husband doesn't care much for the sappy romance movies that I enjoy, but he will suffer through watching them with me. He'd rather watch sci-fi or action flicks. It's a good thing that we both like suspense and mystery movies. We enjoy each others company while soaking in our hot tub on the back porch. We've been together long enough that we finish each others sentences. That can be annoying at times. We mix like water and oil, he is a self-proclaimed atheist and I'm more of a pagan (although I'm never comfortable with labels that box you into a group). I think a person's beliefs are unique to himself/herself. Thank goodness we are both tolerant of each others spiritual or lack-of-spiritual leanings. Our nineteenth anniversary is just around the corner. I guess we are doing something right.

Sleep and Dreaming

My dream life intrigues me. Whenever I've gone through lackluster periods in my life (which have been few) I could at least look forward to being entertained by my dreams. I feel lucky because I have pretty good dream recall. Some of my dreams actually feel like mini-sagas. I can wake up from an eight hour slumber feeling quite exhausted. I recall our church pastor preaching about heaven when I was around ten or eleven years of age. Pastor B. described heaven as a wonderful place. He told the congregation that in heaven we would no longer be encumbered by being incased inside our physical bodies. Our spiritual bodies would have no need for the things that human bodies required. He emphasized that we would have no need for food, no need for sleep, nor any need for sex. Even at eleven, I knew that I would want to experience sex, so I wondered what good was heaven anyway? But, mostly, I didn't want to be in heaven because without sleep I would no longer have my beloved dream world to enjoy.

I've come to the end of my post sharing bits and pieces of my whole self. I hope I didn't bore anyone to tears. Good night and sweet dreaming.
April 24, 2007 at 9:42 am
(1) fran says:

thank you for this. i know it’s an old article and i just happened upon it, but i really enjoyed it! seeing your life written like it was made me realize i am somewhat similar. which made me feel like i am making progress, and am learning, improving as i go. the whole balance thing really hit home. thanks again

April 27, 2007 at 1:49 am
(2) Phylameana says:

Hello Fran,

Thank you for commenting… I’m glad my blog article was helpful to you.

May you journey on in balance…

August 12, 2007 at 8:34 pm
(3) Tracey says:

just happened upon your blog, thankyou, it is lovely to hear that smoeone else feels the same way.
I’ve just started meditating and i am finding the solar plexus part of my foot is really painfuland after years of ‘losing’ my spirituality, am finally feeling something again – at last.

Have you written any updates?
Thankyou again

August 13, 2007 at 12:13 am
(4) Phylameana says:


Great that you are again getting in touch with your spirituality.

I’m not certain what you mean when you ask about updates? The blog gets updated several times each week.

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