How to Stop Making Mistakes
Free Advice from Intuitive Life Coach, Anandra George
Question: I work hard to be a good husband and father but feel that I fall short. I choose to be my wife and son's hero but make mistakes and errors at the worst time. Please help. Thanks. ~Rik
Anandra's Answer: This is a lovely question. At first I was going to tell you I can't help you stop making mistakes, but I actually can if you carefully consider the words below. And, just as importantly, I can help you cultivate an attitude of self-love and forgiveness that will make you an even more real hero for your wife and kids.
First, how to make fewer mistakes:
In my view, attaining a state of perfection isn't about always doing the right thing, it's about being perfectly in the moment, present, and aware. Our errors come when we're disconnected; when we're connected, the right action always flows. To focus on right action before right self-connection is putting the cart before the horse.
Someone said to me recently, "The only sin is knowing better and doing it anyway." Otherwise, the mistakes we make are often only clear in hindsight, but in the moment of action or word, we're unconsciously reacting, defending, pre-empting, etc. based on our deeply ingrained habits and belief systems. We can get free from this cycle only by attending to constant presence, so that those unconscious impulses can be identified and nullified before they have a chance to spring forth and cause the chain reaction of events that we regret... This means, it's necessary to develop a regular spiritual/meditation practice so you can close the gap in time between awareness and action. Or, as is often the case when we make mistakes, to close the gap in time between action and hindsight awareness of what caused you to go "off."
If you can be an example of that humility and self-correction for your family, you can all cultivate together a peace, self-esteem, and love that comes from within and does not depend on reaching an unrealistic standard. If you build up a tower of expectation of perfection, it will inevitably fall... making mistakes is human; it's how we learn. If your family can see you learning from your errors and using each experience to reflect, gain self-knowledge, and gradually better yourself, you give them permission to do the same.
Blessings,
Anandra
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Disclaimer: Anandra's advice is not meant to override your personal health providers' recommendations/prescriptions, but is intended to offer a new perspective and encourage your inner wisdom to guide the best course of action.
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Healing Doses of the Week - Feb 6-12
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New/Updated Articles and Features
New Blog Posts- Healing Doses: Jan 30 - Feb 05
- Archangel Raphael - Master of all Healing on Earth
- Valentine Birthmark
- Astrology Reading Cards, Another Oracle Deck to Love
- Love Stories Wanted
- Tea Leaf Reading Story: Looking for Direction
- Tea Leaf Reading Story: Do You See a Face?
- Love Stories: Star-Struck, A Fated Love Story
- Spirit Orb Photos/Stories: Orbs and Violet Flame
- Reiki Attunement Experiences (2 new posts)
- Angel Encounters (2 new stories)
- Character Building Tips: Keep Trying
- Pros and Cons of Being an Empath (3 new posts)
- Law of Attraction Success Stories: Relationship Breakup
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Love Stories Wanted
Valentine's Day is next Tuesday and love is definitely in the air. Love is an important element in the human experience. There are so many ways to love one another. The romantic fool that I can be at times decided to put out a call for your love stories. It can be about your current lover, or about the time when you had that secret crush on a girl in your math class, or about the first time you met your knight in shining armor. It's up to you!
Who doesn't love a good love story?
You are invited to share the romantic, funny, or endearing stories about your love life and the person/people in your life who you love. Tell how you met your soul mate, or tell about that special occasion that you'll never forget.
Share Your Love Stories
My Personal Love Story
I wouldn't ask for your love stories if I wasn't willing to share one of my own. You can read about the loving and sunny relationship I enjoy with my dear husband here.
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Archangel Raphael - Master of all Healing on Earth
Free Advice from Angel Intuitive, Eileen Smith
Reader Question: My mother just passed suddenly and my heart is broken over this loss. She lived with us for years. We had to remove her off life support which was a very difficult choice. Do you think she can forgive me for this? ~Love and Light, Lisa
Eileen's Response: Dear Lisa, Yesterday I asked the angelic realms "Which angel would like me to write about them for this week's column?" Immediately, Archangel Raphael's energy came to me and he let me know he wanted to speak with everyone this time, through me. He said I would find a question he wanted to answer in my e-mail. As I was scrolling through everything that came in I heard Raphael say "That's the one" as I came to your question.
So Lisa, if nothing else, know that you have a powerful Archangel so close, ready and wanting to help and assist you that he was aware you were writing an e-mail to me. Yes, they really are right there for all of us. American poet Wendell Berry once wrote, "We cannot comprehend what comprehends us." If I teach nothing else through my healing work and writing know this: angels are real, they are aware of you, they love you and are waiting to help you. Read More...
Hurry! Only One Week Left to Nominate Your Favorites
Your nominations for Best in Holistic Healing for the About.com 2012 Readers' Choice Awards are picking up. I'm already getting a pretty good idea who the finalists will be in the various contests, but with another week left (nominations are open through February 15th) I'm curious if there will be any surprises.
Have you submitted your choices for Best in Reiki, Best Intuitive Healers, Best in Chakra Healing, Best in Massage, and other award categories? There is a short window of time left.... so hurry!
Go Here to review all the holistic healing award categories and then click through the various links to make your voice heard. I realize it takes a bit of effort to go through the nomination process, but there are good people and wonderful healers, counting on your support.
Come on readers... SURPRISE ME!
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Valentine Birthmark
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Astrology Reading Cards - Another Oracle Deck to Love
Over the weekend I had the opportunity to open up a new pack of oracle cards - what fun!! Astrology Reading Cards is a unique oracle deck based on cosmic influences created by astrologer, Allison Chester-Lambert. The illustrator of the cards is artist Richard Crooke.... these cards are real beauties.
Because of my love of Tarot and divination practices in general I have collected Tarot and Oracle cards for over thirty years. Because of the number of decks on the market to choose from has significantly grown in the past few years, there is no way I can keep up collecting all of them. I actually don't even go shopping for new decks to add to my anymore. Still, new cards keeping their way into my hands... instead of me finding them, they find me. This happens because of my work, new decks are occasionally sent to me from the publishers seeking my review.
Because I'm a visual person/learner I cannot just handle the decks and write a review... pictorials are so much more fun to write!!! Check out my new Pictorial of the Astrology Reading Cards. Also, here is a list of other divination card pictorials I've written.
- Crystal Oversoul Attunements Healing Cards
- Sacred Geometry Oracle Deck
- Teen Angels - Deck of 52 Inspirational Cards
- Reiki Techniques Card Deck
- Russian Gypsy Fortune Telling Cards
- Angels of Atlantis Oracle Cards
Readers are invited to review their favorite oracle and Tarot decks for publication on this site as well.
Hurry!!! - Nominate Your Favorite Tarot Cards and Oracle Card DecksThe 2012 Readers' Choice Awards is underway. Twenty-three different holistic healing categories are being featured in this year's contest... including readers' choices for Best Tarot and Oracle Cards. As of this morning I have received nominations for 24 Tarot Decks and 9 Oracle Card Decks..... only ten decks (five Tarot Cards, five Oracle Decks) will make it as the finalists. The nomination phase ends on February 15.... so hurry to lend your voice to help get your favorite decks a chance for the WIN. You may nominate up to 3 decks in each category.
Tarot Art ProjectAnother fun Tarot project I started last year that has not yet caught fire is the Tarot Art Gallery that I am wanting to create featuring reader submitted artworks of the 22 major arcana. I've only received three artist submissions so far.... but I'm hopeful a few more pushes will get readers excited about it. Com' On! Let me see your art!
cover art courtesy of Findhorn Press
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Healing Doses of the Week - Jan 30-Feb 5
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New/Updated Articles and Features
New Blog Posts- Healing Doses: Jan 23-29
- Nominate Your Favorite Massage Tool
- Chakras - Healing Stitches
- Reiki and Intuitively Working with Animals
- Carnival of Healing #246
- Seeking Nominations for Best in Chakra Healing
- Sacred Spaces at Home: Sacred Spaces Anywhere & Everywhere
- Healing Tattoos: Spiritual Eye
- Out of Body Experiences: (Recent and Past, Accidental or Unintended OBE)
- Past Life Memories: (Saw Myself in 1963, A French Assassin)
- Inner Child Comforts: Creative Memories
- Pros and Cons of Being an Empath (5 new posts)
- Tips to Guard Against Psychic Vampires: Anger
- Palm Reading Experiences: Palms Read Twice, Different Results
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Seeking Nominations for Best in Chakra Healing
There is still time to submit your nominations for the 2012 Readers' Choice Awards (RCA). Twenty-three Holistic Healing winner badges in total are to be awarded, three of them to the very Best in Chakra Healing.
- Best Chakra Healing Books (nominate your favorites)
- Best Chakra-Centered Facebook Page (nominate your favorites)
- Best Chakra-Centered Twitter Account (nominate your favorites)
Up to five finalists will be chosen from each group based on reader nomination to compete in the voting phase of the RCA beginning Feb. 22.
Here's a look at what the nominations look like as of this posting:
Chakra Books Nominated So Far
- A Children's Guide to Chakras written by Susan Merek
- Chakra Awakening written by Margaret Ann Lembo
- The SevenFold Journey written by Anodea Judith
- Hands of Light written by Barbara Brennan
- The Chakra Collective
- Chakradance
- Chakra Boosters (Chakra Boosters has also been nominated for Best in Healing Tools)
- Let's Talk Chakras
- Chakra Chakra Chakra
- @ChakricTemple
- @modernchakra
- @ChakraDreams
- @Pineal432hz (6th Chakra)
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